“he wasn't the type for displays of affection, either verbal or not. He
was disgusted by couples that made out in the hallways between classes,
and got annoyed at even the slightest sapppy moments in movies. But I
knew he cared about me: he just conveyed it more subtly, as concise
with expressing this emotion as he was with everything else. It was in
the way he'd put his hand on the small of my back, for instance, or how
he'd smile at me when I said something that surprised him. Once I might
have wanted more, but I'd come around to his way of thinking in the
time we'd been together. And we were together, all the time. So he
didn't have to prove how he felt about me. Like so much else, I should
just know.”
―
Sarah Dessen,
The Truth About Forever
I was thinking about how to try an avoid the sappy cliches of love for this piece im working on and it gave me some ideas as well as a laugh.
“Through my love for you, I want to express my love for the whole
cosmos, the whole of humanity, and all beings. By living with you, I
want to learn to love everyone and all species. If I succeed in loving
you, I will be able to love everyone and all species on Earth... This is
the real message of love.”
playing more with cliches about love... Me and my friend discussed at length the implications of this, and then laughed because so much happiness should be spread on a daily basis.
I just had a total fangirl moment, sorry about that. I love almost all of Sarah Dessen's novels, but Dreamland is my favorite. Have you read it? That one is all sorts of amazing…now I want to reread it.
ReplyDeleteThat last line is just so...wrong. When someone loves you they should be willing to show you, you shouldn't "just know." All those small things that he does for her are sweet and all, but there should be more than just a hand on her back to show his affection. That would just seem like he was distant…maybe a little cold? Do you agree or is it just me?
I haven't read it yet, but after I found this quote I became really interested in picking up some of her novels to read. Also, I see where you coming from, and maybe its just both of us. The feeling of knowing someone is there watching over you. How i see it; There are many different types of love and they can be expressed differently but I do agree its distant, but maybe its the fact that so many of us are filled with doubt on whether or not our partners care for us that we don't notice the small things.
DeleteOr maybe it's our insecurities that make us need the big gestures instead of the small ones.
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